Emotional Healing: A Tangential Focus

first_imgBy DR. TED WIARDEditors Note: This is an ongoing series by grief specialist Dr. Ted Wiard, dedicated to helping educate the community about emotional healing.Societal losses have continued to inundate people as a community, family, and individuals.Societal losses such as the COVID pandemic, fires, politics, fears in elections, hurricanes, deaths of leaders, financial losses, and many more stressors due to changes within society have traumatized most people over the last 8 months to new levels. As grief tries to redefine these situations and help transition people into the actuality of the present situation, and empower the next steps of action, the psyche can become overwhelmed and allow levels of denial to help halt the flood into the system with unstable stimuli of change coming into the brain.The phase of denial in the grief process plays an enormous role to try to filter all the stimuli of change that is barraging the nervous system. One of the ways that denial deflects stimuli is with a tangential focus. What this means is as a person has a topic that is causing emotional dysregulation, the psyche will look at a different angle of that loss to help decrease the impact on the person emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually. Similar to making sure you look away from the sun to not be blinded, yet knowing the sun is still there, and taking in the amount of stimuli that is not harmful for the person. Quite often tangential actions come out as arguing with partners, being agitated at manageable issues rather than the primary irritant, and other actions that losses are acted out in secondary issues rather than true actor of the pain. Tangential grief helps keep someone from being overwhelmed but can cause other losses in the process. As feelings of autonomy feel hijacked due to loss, it is easy to look for other topics to try to control and demand change, fix and rescue someone from the discomfort. This type of behavior is often acted out within the family system.As internal pressure grows, similar to a pressure cooker, a release is needed to discharge that internal stress. As that stress grows and isn’t directed towards the primary issue, it is released in negative behaviors towards loved ones. Energy is blown sideways which may cause collateral damage in your most important relationships. To avoid this collateral damage, start by being conscious of what is causing the person to be agitated. Engage in ways to release stress in healthy ways and do it! Also, reach out for healthy support from professionals and loved ones, take peaceful actions, express your feelings, and most importantly, continue to find ways to be kind and loving to your friends and family, rather than cause chaos within the system that is actually supporting the person. Tangential behaviors is habitual, and is a way to not get overwhelmed. Becoming conscious of actions can help deter more stress on top of the true cause of the emotional disruption. Self-care and conscious actions will help the person, as well as those around them, which will help build a team approach to walk through these difficult times. I wish you well, and until the next time, take care.Golden Willow Retreat is a nonprofit organization focused on emotional healing and recovery from any type of loss. Direct any questions to Dr. Ted Wiard, EdD, LPCC, CGC, Founder of Golden Willow Retreat GWR@newmex.com or call at 575.776.2024. Los Alamos virtual grief support group is offered, at no charge. Visit www.goldenwillowretreat.org.last_img read more

No. 9 UWF to head to Miami for NCAA South Regional

first_imgNo. 9 UWF to head to Miami for NCAA South Regional Share UWF will head to Barry for the NCAA South Regional (Photo by Bill Stockland) center_img   INDIANAPOLIS, Ind. – The Intercollegiate Tennis Association No. 9-ranked West Florida women’s tennis team was selected as the No. 4 seed for the NCAA South Regional as announced by the NCAA Selection Committee in the NCAA Selection Show Tuesday night.The Argonauts (23-4, 12-4 South Region) advanced to the NCAA postseason for the 18th time in program history and 18th consecutive season. UWF has advanced to the NCAA postseason in all 16 seasons under UWF coach Derrick Racine.UWF will play the No. 5 seed Rollins in the regional semifinals. With a victory, UWF would play in the regional finals against No. 1 seed Barry.UWF fell to Rollins 4-5 on the road earlier this season and also lost to Barry on the road 2-7. The winner of the regional final advances to the NCAA Championships at Sanlando Park in Altamonte Springs, Fla. May 14-17.For information on all UWF athletics, visit www.GoArgos.com.#ARGOS#NCAA Championships Selection Show  Print Friendly Versionlast_img read more

Lionel Messi’s wife Antonela stuns in bikini top as she soaks up sun while Barcelona star finishes season

first_img Travel Diary // Vietnam 2017 LIONEL MESSI’S gorgeous wife Antonela Roccuzzo stunned fans with a sizzling bikini snap.The Barcelona legend’s partner took to Instagram to show fans she was soaking up the sunshine on Sunday.Antonela shared a stunning snap with her followersLionel Messi and his wife regularly pose up a storm on social mediaThe picture-perfect couple share snippets from their idyllic lifeMessi’s childhood sweetheart, 32, set pulses racing in a pair of denim hot pants paired with a black bikini top as she appeared to be relaxing poolside.But there was no rest for the Argentine star as he made history in his side’s final La Liga game of the season on Sunday.Messi broke former team-mate Xavi’s single-season assist record against Alaves.The Argentine superstar laid on his 21st assist of the season to claim the record in the dead-rubber. Barca had already surrendered their crown to Real Madrid in the week but Messi did at least seal his fourth consecutive golden boot after finishing on 25 goals.Messi has been embroiled in a public row with boss Quique Setien after a lacklustre campaign.The 32-year-old Argentinian stunner is no stranger to a show of PDA with hubby MessiThe couple are very affectionateThe Barcelona skipper’s wife shares his dedicated attitude to fitness and staying in perfect shapeThe skipper demanded change after Barca slipped to a 2-1 defeat to Osasuna at the Nou Camp last week.He described their play under Setien as “weak and erratic” after the side threw away a two-point lead after the restart to gift Los Blancos the Spanish title.But the pair have reportedly held showdown talks as they look to put their differences aside ahead of their quest to win this year’s Champions League.Inside Lionel Messi’s star-studded wedding as wife Antonela shares clip on three-year anniversary Real or Fake? Shark Attacks Helicopter 10 INCREDIBLE Space Launch Failures! Rebekah Vardy scores an impressive penalty in six-inch heels Top 5 Best Budget Hotels In Dubai under AED 400 a night.center_img 8 MOST DANGEROUS RAINS of All Time | TOP 10 INTERESTING Source: Soccer – thesun.co.uk What’s This “Trick” Called? Comment Down Below!! People Slammed By Massive Waves 4last_img read more

Derby County turn to Real Madrid assistant coach Paul Clement

first_img However, with Ancelotti’s future up in the air, Clement may feel now is the perfect time to go it alone.  He has spent the last two years in Madrid with the Italian and has never hid from the fact his eventual goal is to go into management.  Sport EN Upd. at 18:48 19/05/2015 According to La Sexta, Carlo Ancelotti’s assistant coach has decided next season is the right time to go off in his own direction.  “It’s a great experience to work at this level: it’s the pinnacle.” Clement has previously worked with Ancelotti at Chelsea and Paris Saint-Germain. Paul Clement could be about to swap Real Madrid for Derby County.  “It’s an ambition [to be head coach] but I’ll stay here as long as I can,” he told The Guardian in 2013.  Derby just missed out on promotion to the Premier League this season and are thought to be looking for a replacement for former England manager Steve McLaren.  CEST London-based Queens Park Rangers would have been his first choice, but they renewed Chris Ramsey’s contract with the club on Tuesday.last_img read more

Wenger opens the door for Alexis Sanchez & Mesut Ozil to leave

first_imgArsenal have considered the sales of Alexis Sanchez and Mesut Ozil in the winter transfer window, according to Arsene Wenger, who admitted the difficulties in renewing the deals of both players, who are out of contract in the summer.  Wenger abre la puerta de salida a Alexis y Özil Wenger is aware that Alexis will leave but he still maintains hope with Ozil. “As I understand it he wants [to stay],” expressed the French coach when asked about the German midfielder, with an agreement over new terms needed before the end of the season.  Arsenal coach Wenger remains confident of convincing Ozil to stay  Alexis, who is doubt for this weekend’s game against Watford as he returns from Chile duty, has rejected a new contract with the club and his eventual departure is consisdered a given.  Upd. at 13:00 “We don’t have a fixed date to decide,” Wenger added, who was reluctant to talk about the future of both players despite the constant questions.  Brian Owen CEST The former Barcelona forward has been the subject of interest from Manchester City, who tried to sign him in January, while he has also been linked in recent weeks with Paris Saint-Germain, too.  “It’s possible,” the Arsenal coach said about the chances of the duo being sold. “In our situation, we have considered every outcome,” he added, with little desire to expand on the subject.  IN SPORT.ES 12/10/2017 Alexis is likely to leave… maybe even in January In recent weeks, Ozil has been linked with a move to Manchester United, where he would be reunited with his former Real Madrid boss Jose Mourinho, while Barcelona and Madrid have also been linked in passing.last_img read more

Rotary funds village dental clinic

first_imgBy Alana Mitchelson ROTARY clubs of Pakenham and Berwick have contributed to the establishment of a much-needed dental clinic in…[To read the rest of this story Subscribe or Login to the Gazette Access Pass] Thanks for reading the Pakenham Berwick Gazette. Subscribe or Login to read the rest of this content with the Gazette Digital Access Pass subscription.last_img

Conor Melody commits to Galway United for 2020

first_imgThe speedy winger enjoyed one of his best seasons in a United shirt, scoring 4 goals in 28 appearances for the Tribesmen to really establish himself as a feature in the starting eleven. The 22-year-old joined Galway United in 2015 and he has gone on to make over 100 appearances for the Eamonn Deacy Park club.The dynamic attacker spent most of the season playing as a winger, but he displayed his adaptability when Alan Murphy pushed him further forward and Melody’s move to the number nine position coincided with United’s strong finish to the season.Melody’s bullet header against Cork City in the FAI Cup sent Alan Murphy’s side into the Quarter-Final and he helped the club finish the season strongly.Melody acknowledges that Galway United need to build on 2019 now.“I’m delighted to be back. I felt towards the end of the season, we really pulled together and showed what we’re about in the last few games,” Melody explained to www.galwayunitedfc.ie.“I was enjoying playing on the wing, but when I was played through the middle, it was a different challenge for me, but it was one that I embraced. I tried to learn how to play the position as quickly as I could.“Going forward as a club, we have to try and carry that end of season form and momentum through to 2020. We need to hit the ground running because that’s going to be very important for us going forward. We’re really looking to push on next season and maybe surprise a few people.”Melody excelled as both a winger and a striker at Eamonn Deacy Park in 2019 and Galway United manager Alan Murphy expects him to have another big season for the club next year.“2019 was probably Conor Melody’s best year in a Galway United shirt. He really got a good run of games in a consistent position, be that as a right-sided player or when he played up top. He flourished with the confidence flowing through him and he really had a good year for us.“In pre-season Conor struggled with a knee injury and he probably didn’t hit the ground running for two months, when you consider that, he’s had a really good few months after that. We changed his position to the number nine role and he really showed his worth in the Cup games and finished the season strongly.“I’ve known Conor and coached him for many years now since his schoolboy days, so I’m familiar with his attributes and the application and effort that he gives. I don’t expect any less from him next year and I expect it to be another big season for Conor.” Conor Melody becomes the latest player to commit to Galway United for the 2020 SSE Airtricity League season.center_img print WhatsApp Facebook Twitter Emaillast_img read more

Bayern Munich 3-0 Celtic: Bhoys players rated and slated as they lose in Germany

first_img 14 14 14 Right-back: Cristian Gamboa – 3/10 – Had a woeful time of it up against Kingsley Coman and was often left chasing shadows as the French winger sped past him on the flank or cut inside to pass. He won’t be relishing the return match. Substitute: Tom Rogic (on for Stuart Armstrong) – 5/10 – Australian midfielder Rogic shored up the Celtic midfield when he entered the fray and looked a lot more composed. He should start the return match if they are to put up a fight in Scotland. 14 14 14 Central midfield: Stuart Armstrong – 5/10 – Made one early dash forward before Leigh Griffiths and Scott Sinclair lost the ball between them. He did okay considering he’s just returning from injury but will need to improve into the return match. Central midfield: Olivier Ntcham – 3/10 – A terrible second half shot following some excellent work by Scott Sinclair wasted a good chance for his side and summed up his display. He looked well out of his depth at this level. 14 Central midfield: Scott Brown – 6/10 – Back from injury, the Celtic skipper got in a good early block and was, at the very least, decent in possession in a tough clash with the Bavarian behemoths. 14 Centre-back: Mikael Lustig – 4/10 – Pulled out of position often by the brilliance of Robert Lewandowski he found it tough throughout the match against such an elite frontline. 14 14 Goalkeeper: Craig Gordon – 6/10 – Click the right arrow above to see our Celtic player ratings… – The Scottish No.1 couldn’t stop Thomas Muller opening the scoring but did well to paw away Robert Lewandowski’s original header. He did make one or two decent saves but couldn’t keep the score down. Centre-back: Dedryck Boyata – 5/10 – The Belgian lost Mats Hummels for the Bayern’s third of the game, but actually put in a half decent performance for the rest of the 90 minutes. 14 14 Left-wing: Scott Sinclair – 3/10 – The ex-Chelsea winger couldn’t get into the game as Bayern Munich dominated the game at the Allianz Arena. He did have a goal disallowed but it shouldn’t mask a poor performance. Right-wing: Patrick Roberts – 5/10 – The loanee from Manchester City put in a patchy display at the Allianz Arena with occasional moments of skill being paired with periods of isolation. Centre forward: Leigh Griffiths – 4/10 – After barely touching the ball, his main contribution in the first half was a foul near his own area but the match was always going to be tough for the striker. 14 Substitute: James Forrest (on for Patrick Roberts) – 5/10 – He only had 12 minutes but put in a bright showing as Bayern Munich eased towards victory. Celtic found themselves on the wrong end of a 3-0 scoreline in Germany as they were put to the sword by Bundesliga giants Bayern Munich in the Champions League.Brendan Rodgers’ side will have known they were in for a tough time but they were swatted aside with ease by their opponents at the Allianz Arena.Goals from Thomas Muller, Joshua Kimmich, and Mats Hummels were all it took, while they also had two strikes disallowed on home soil.Scott Sinclair also had an effort chalked off late but how did Celtic stars perform against Bayern Munich? Click the right arrow above to see talkSPORT’s player ratings… 14 Left-back: Kieran Tierney – 6/10 – The youngster was caught ball watching for the opening goal of the game, allowing Muller to get away from him. In the second half he grew into the game and got involved further forward, hitting the post. Overall, the match will prove a good experience for the youngster and he fared better than some of this other team-mates. Substitute: Moussa Dembele (on for Leigh Griffiths) – 5/10 – As Bayern Munich took their foot off the gas, Dembele was allowed more time on the ball and gave Celtic fans at least some hope of a goal. last_img read more

National Geospatial-Intelligence facility construction underway

first_imgNorth St. Louis hasn’t exactly been Missouri’s hottest economic spot.That area is getting a huge boost, with construction starting there on the $1.7 billion National Geospatial-Intelligence facility center.“I wouldn’t have ever thought it would ever come to this area. It’s been blighted for 30 years or more,” St. Louis committeeman Anthony Bell said to Missourinet. “We never would have thought this type of government funding would have come in.”NGA is the hub of national digital and satellite intelligence for the U.S. See more about the new facility here.last_img read more

Updated: Companies settle gene technology patent fight that was shrouded in mystery

first_img*Update, 22 August, 2:45 p.m.: Illumina Inc. and Oxford Nanopore Technologies have reached a settlement in this legal battle, according to a U.S. International Trade Commission document released last week. Oxford has agreed not to import or sell any product containing a pore with an amino acid sequence at least 68% similar to Mycobacterium smegmatis porin (Msp)—the protein at the heart of Illumina’s infringement claim—and to destroy any inventory of such products.  The document explicitly states that the restriction doesn’t affect Oxford’s ability to use CsgG, a different pore that the company unveiled shortly after the suit was filed, and which underlies its newest line of sequencers. Whether Oxford ever did rely on Msp is still a mystery.Here is our original story from 2 March: The inexpensive and portable approach to DNA analysis known as nanopore sequencing has just begun to take off, but it has already sparked a legal battle between an industry giant and a high-profile upstart. Last week, Illumina, Inc.—which dominates the genetic sequencing industry—sued Oxford Nanopore Technologies, the first company to market a commercial nanopore platform. 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Illumina leads the sequencing market, selling refrigerator-sized devices that read DNA by building and piecing together short complementary strands that bear chemical tags. In contrast, nanopore sequencing—which has been hailed as a game-changing approach to DNA analysis because of its simplicity and portability—reads long strands of DNA in a single pass, by measuring changes in electrical current as each nucleotide passes through a microscopic pore. Since 2014, Oxford has made its handheld MinION nanopore device available to researchers through an early access program, and is preparing to debut a larger and more powerful model called PromethION.Illumina, meanwhile, has yet to release a nanopore platform, but it has licensed two key patents from the University of Washington, Seattle, and the University of Alabama, Birmingham. Those patents describe a system using bacteria-derived pores known as Msp. In the new lawsuits, filed 23 February with the U.S. International Trade Commission and in a Southern California federal district court, Illumina contends that this Msp pore also underlies Oxford’s products.But the exact contents of Oxford’s machines are still a mystery, even to the researchers who have been using them. “No one I know has any specific idea about what the pore is,” says Winston Timp, a biomedical engineer at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, Maryland.  It’s clear that Oxford has worked with Msp pores and made them available to researchers: Among the evidence Illumina provides in the lawsuit is Oxford’s patent on a mutated form of Msp; it claims the pore makes it easier to identify the nucleotides passing through. There’s also a recent paper, which acknowledges Oxford for providing Msp pores to Harvard University researchers.  But Timp notes that the company also holds patents on other types of nanopores, including some synthetic pores developed in his lab that aren’t derived from bacteria. And the illustrations in the company’s promotional materials, he notes, look more like the α-hemolysin, a different bacterial pore developed before Msp pores.If the Oxford devices do contain an Msp pore, does that mean the company has infringed on Illumina’s patents? Not necessarily, says Dan Burk, a law professor at the University of California, Irvine. Illumina’s chance of winning the case might come down to a “very messy” aspect of patent law called the doctrine of equivalents, he says. The doctrine holds that a party can be liable for infringement even if their product doesn’t literally match what’s described in a patent, provided their product performs the same function, in the same way, to achieve the same result as the patented invention.“It’s supposed to be a way of bringing some fairness into the system, because … it’s hard to capture exactly what you’ve invented in words sometimes,” says Arti Rai, a patent law expert at Duke University in Durham, North Carolina. If Oxford’s pore contains a different set of mutations than those in Illumina’s patents, a jury might be asked to determine whether there has still been infringement by equivalents. “It’s a very fuzzy doctrine, to put it mildly,” Rai says, and judges have recently seemed reluctant to allow the argument in court.In all likelihood, the two companies would reach a settlement before that point, she adds. But if Oxford chooses to fight, it could try to show that its technology doesn’t infringe by revealing what’s under the hood of its devices to the jury, and to Illumina’s lawyers. For Illumina’s researchers, and the scientists already making use of the sequencers, that technology could still remain a mystery.last_img read more